How many toxins are the products you use in your sex life? There …. I have have dropped the first sentence in a blog that I did not know how to start! There is something about writing about sex that renders me back to being a giggling teenager and reading the More Magazine’s “Position of the Fortnight” page while I was on a flight with my mum and best friend. I remember wanting to die with embarrassment … as teenagers do…. when my mother leant over and gave her view on the position! Awkward!
Sex was never a topic that I thought I would ever talk about on Fifi Friendly …. goodness only knows what my neighbours thought of me taking the pictures for this blog! That being said, if there is one thing Fifi Friendly is about, it is about being aware of what you are putting on and in your body …. surely sex toys and accessories come under this. It is acceptable to talk socially about how natural your face cleanser is, how environmentally friendly your fabric softener is and how organic you coffee is, but a little more sensitive to talk about how non-toxic your vibrator is! How eco and body friendly are all the products in your home?
Something happened in the last few years that made a lot of people more comfortable with talking about sex. I won’t be the first, or the last for that matter, to write about the effect that Fifty Shades of Grey has had on the Nation’s sex lives, but without a doubt, there has been a Fifty Shades of Grey effect on the sales of sex toys, accessories and lingerie. I wonder if it was this effect that led me to being sent questions about non-toxic sex toys. As I started to research this blog, I read that one in three women in the UK admit to owning a sex toy …. I know one person that has enough toys to cover the quota for a few people.
There was also a massive 400% increase in the sales of kegel balls shortly after Fifty Shades of Grey came out. Even if you look at Google Trends, the sharp rise in the amount of searches for sex toys coincided beautifully with the release of the Fifty Shades of Grey Film in February. Given that we are being a little less stiff upper lip and talking about sex more, now is the ideal time to discuss how safe your sex toys and accessories are.
I for one was surprised to hear that the sex toy industry is unregulated and un-tested. In a world that has started to stop the use of phthalates and toxins in children’s toys, why is the same not being done for your average dildo or lubricant? Luckily there is a world of eco friendly and body safe choices out there, but how aware is your average user? How many of you have heard of the solar powered bullet vibrator that is apparently great to take camping? What about vegan or fair trade condoms, ethical family planning, whips that are made out of recycled tyres or even carbon neutral vibrators? Say what!!!! When I started to research this blog I expected it to be a short piece, however it now looks like it will be a two parter!
Let’s start with vibrators/dildos… as you do. I, like so many of my generation, was educated about vibrators when Charlotte discovered the Rampant Rabbit on Sex and the City. Vibrators and dildos up until more recently were mainly phthalate or toxin filled, but nowadays they can come in a variety of body safe and eco-friendy formats. One body safe product that rates very highly in the non-toxic rankings is the glass dildo like the Sensual Glass Textured Dildo by Lovehoney (£19.99).
When I told one of my friends about this product, she was a little taken aback by it being made of glass! Quite possibly one of our funniest chats started. She first of all was concerned it would shatter, but I explained it is not your average glass that this is made from. The truth of the matter is that there appears to be a long list of plus points to this product, so here are a few of the main ones.
- Super easy to clean and therefore very hygienic – can even be cleaned in dishwasher
- Long lasting and durable as they are hand-made of borosilicate glass
- Eco-friendly as no batteries or charging required
- Can be used hot or cold – yes there are instructions about leaving it in the fridge and also cautions not to put it in the microwave!
- Looks good, I am not sure I would have it sitting around my house as a sculpture but it is definitely more arty looking than some of the alternatives
- 100% non-porous
- Hypoallergenic and safe for people who have sensitive skin or allergies
This body safe and non toxic sex toy can be used with all lubricants which moves me seamlessly on to the next products. In same way you can get paraben free and non-toxic face and body products, you can also get a good variety of lubricants that are 99% natural, gluten free or paraben free. First up is Sliquid Natural Intimate Lubricant (£9.95 for 125ml) which has an impressive list of credentials. This vegan friendly, water based and water soluble product is free of so many things and it is astoundingly natural. There are none of the following included in it’s ingredients
- Propylene glycol
If that was not enough, this clever little neutral pH balanced lubricant has the ability to mirror your body’s natural lubrication. Where this product stands out from the rest is the fact that it can be re-activated with water, so there is less wastage. Very eco-friendly! The final question you may ask is what can I use it with? … pretty much anything as it is latex, rubber and plastic friendly. The original Sliquid is the H2O, which is in fact the base formula for their Naturals range.
Sliquid has a great line of non staining products for everyone :- those who have never tried a lubricant and perhaps have never contemplated one, those who need to use one and those who want a high quality, non-toxic and safe product to enhance their sex life. Some of their large range is also organic. Something else to note is that traditional sugar derived lubricants can be known to contribute to yeast infections and UTIs, Sliquid is a great hypoallergenic plant derived alternative.
Another one of their products to consider is the Sliquid Naturals Sea, which has hand selected natural seaweed extracts in it’s vegan ingredient list. Now I know that algae is all the rage for your face and is great in a seaweed bath, so why not include it here. What is interesting about this Sliquid Sea is that the extract ingredients are super beneficial to your neither regions. Firstly Wakame seaweed reduces inflammation, is great for skin elasticity and also B vitamin rich. The carrageenan (from algae) is a great lubricator and Sliquid write that it has been linked to the reduce HPV transmission (You can find out more here on Sliquid’s website). Sliquid can be bought at Belle De Soir.
Lelo is great at many things and packaging is one of them. The Lelo Antibacterial Cleaning Spray comes in a tamper proof packet and sleek white/silver bottle (£6.90 for 60ml). If you worry if you are cleaning your toys properly enough , this alcohol free and pH balanced spray kills 99.9% of germs thanks to its anti -microbial ingredients. This body safe formula is suitable to use on most toys, including the silicone, rubber and latex ones. What I found interesting about this product is that is contains anti- viral and anti- fungal properties as well as irritation reducing zinc salts.
Part 2 will be out soon. In the meantime – have you tried any of these products? Were you aware of toxins in intimate accessories and toys?